Either
1. Forming strong friendships is one of the most important aspects of life as a
student.Write about the benefits of having good friends.
Or
2. A recent survey has shown that people are most afraid of heights and public
speaking.Besides these two fears, what makes you afraid and why?
i choose 2.
Besides this two fear, i guess my greatest fear is the fear of dark places.
In a pitch dark place, you would not be able to see what is around you, nor know what is out there. It could be full of surprises, and it could be full of shock.
Human have the tendancy of being afraid of things that they cannot see, as they would not know what is it they are doing. And when visibility is at its lowest, one of our most important sense rendered useless, all we can do is to feel.
Being a blessed child with no damages to my five senses, i am very afraid of dark places for many reasons. i am too used to seeing things around me and when i am unable to tell what i am doing with my sense of sight, i would start panicking. i would usually bump into things, which in turn injure myself, or spoil the things unintentionally. this has happened to me several times in life, as dark places, like high grounds, is unavoidable. Also, in dark places, you could feel severe discomfort as you would not know what is around you. Are they people who will be helping you, or are they out there to harm you.
Dark places, on the other hand can be mysterious and fun. however, thus far, all my experiences with dark places only end up in fear and panic.
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Sunday, July 31, 2011
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Ns and Citizenship
recently, my friend was talking about singapore citizenship and national service.
and here is the conclusion on how u can "run" away from ns if you are a singapore citizen
Dual citizenship is generally not recognised in Singapore[7], but is possible under certain circumstances. Singaporean citizens who acquire citizenship of a foreign country after the age of 18 may lose Singaporean citizenship[6]. Foreigners who naturalise as Singaporean citizens are required to renounce all foreign citizenships.[6] Minors who are dual or multiple citizens by birth on foreign soil, by descent from foreign parents or by naturalisation before the age of 18 are required to renounce all foreign citizenships by the age of 22 or may lose their Singaporean citizenship[6].
The prohibition of dual citizenship is a contentious issue in Singapore. As the economy becomes more globalized and Singaporeans more mobile, many Singaporeans have acquired foreign citizenships and reluctantly renounced their Singaporean citizenship even though they may feel a strong emotional attachment to Singapore. Immigrants who have been resident in Singapore for long periods and qualify for Singaporean citizenship may be reluctant to become naturalized citizens as it would mean giving up the citizenship of their native countries. Those who are dual citizens at birth may find it unjust that they are denied their birthright to citizenship of other countries where they were born or that of their parents. Male dual citizens are also not allowed to renounce Singaporean citizenship after the age of 11 and before attaining majority at the age of 21, such that they have to serve National Service at the age of 18 for a country to whom allegiance they may almost immediately abjure.[8]
The government's rationale for not allowing dual citizenship is that Singapore is a young and vulnerable nation which cannot afford to allow its citizens multiple allegiances which may be compromised in times of national crisis. Citizens without a second citizenship may feel aggrieved if dual citizens enjoy the benefits of citizenship during periods of wealth but leave the country in trying times.[9]. Nevertheless, the government is open to the possibility of allowing dual citizenship if local and global circumstances demand so.[10]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singaporean_nationality_law
and with reference from
http://forum.singaporeexpats.com/ftopic61423.html&sid=1dadf81230dfbfbe1ec3e1f3b87df42e
and here is the conclusion on how u can "run" away from ns if you are a singapore citizen
Dual citizenship is generally not recognised in Singapore[7], but is possible under certain circumstances. Singaporean citizens who acquire citizenship of a foreign country after the age of 18 may lose Singaporean citizenship[6]. Foreigners who naturalise as Singaporean citizens are required to renounce all foreign citizenships.[6] Minors who are dual or multiple citizens by birth on foreign soil, by descent from foreign parents or by naturalisation before the age of 18 are required to renounce all foreign citizenships by the age of 22 or may lose their Singaporean citizenship[6].
The prohibition of dual citizenship is a contentious issue in Singapore. As the economy becomes more globalized and Singaporeans more mobile, many Singaporeans have acquired foreign citizenships and reluctantly renounced their Singaporean citizenship even though they may feel a strong emotional attachment to Singapore. Immigrants who have been resident in Singapore for long periods and qualify for Singaporean citizenship may be reluctant to become naturalized citizens as it would mean giving up the citizenship of their native countries. Those who are dual citizens at birth may find it unjust that they are denied their birthright to citizenship of other countries where they were born or that of their parents. Male dual citizens are also not allowed to renounce Singaporean citizenship after the age of 11 and before attaining majority at the age of 21, such that they have to serve National Service at the age of 18 for a country to whom allegiance they may almost immediately abjure.[8]
The government's rationale for not allowing dual citizenship is that Singapore is a young and vulnerable nation which cannot afford to allow its citizens multiple allegiances which may be compromised in times of national crisis. Citizens without a second citizenship may feel aggrieved if dual citizens enjoy the benefits of citizenship during periods of wealth but leave the country in trying times.[9]. Nevertheless, the government is open to the possibility of allowing dual citizenship if local and global circumstances demand so.[10]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Singaporean_nationality_law
and with reference from
http://forum.singaporeexpats.com/ftopic61423.html&sid=1dadf81230dfbfbe1ec3e1f3b87df42e
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Meiji factory sales.
okay, i went to 36 quality road by taking 246 from boon lay mrt station.. its about 4stops away and u can see the big big factory of meiji.
BUT
the things there are not cheap(apart from budget corner, which is totally wiped by the time i reached there @1.30pm(operating hours 12-3pm)
yes, there is 20% discount, but things like the tube choco is marked up at $5.65 each(before 20%) while ntuc xtra sells at $4.50!!
so its almost the same..
as for yan yan, its $0.80(after 20%), which is only about 10-20c cheaper den outside!! (fyi, cab there from amk is about $18,bus + train there is about $2 )
Hello panda sells @ a box fer almost $13(before 20%), and one box have 24 packs. assuming each pack at retail is 60c, its just like buy 20 free 4 -.-
so my conclusion is that the things there is not VERY cheap, despite the 20% due to marked up prices.
HOWEVER
there are quite a few products there cant be EASILY found off the shelf.
im not sure if they are not in stores of sg, or if they are only is certain higher end stores, or is it EXCLUSIVE to meiji factory outlet.
they are also not cheap (imagine a pack of grapes gummy costing $4.20 before discount (ps: want want grape gummy costs only 90c @ shengshiong))
ALL IN ALL,
its a fun experience there, with so many meiji products to choose from, and despite being a bit disapointed with the price(coz ppl have been saying it is damn cheap there and its a sales that couldnt be missed), im still glad i made the trip. coz meiji produces excellent and tasty tit bits!!
bah... im gonna be fat... FML
BUT
the things there are not cheap(apart from budget corner, which is totally wiped by the time i reached there @1.30pm(operating hours 12-3pm)
yes, there is 20% discount, but things like the tube choco is marked up at $5.65 each(before 20%) while ntuc xtra sells at $4.50!!
so its almost the same..
as for yan yan, its $0.80(after 20%), which is only about 10-20c cheaper den outside!! (fyi, cab there from amk is about $18,bus + train there is about $2 )
Hello panda sells @ a box fer almost $13(before 20%), and one box have 24 packs. assuming each pack at retail is 60c, its just like buy 20 free 4 -.-
so my conclusion is that the things there is not VERY cheap, despite the 20% due to marked up prices.
HOWEVER
there are quite a few products there cant be EASILY found off the shelf.
im not sure if they are not in stores of sg, or if they are only is certain higher end stores, or is it EXCLUSIVE to meiji factory outlet.
they are also not cheap (imagine a pack of grapes gummy costing $4.20 before discount (ps: want want grape gummy costs only 90c @ shengshiong))
ALL IN ALL,
its a fun experience there, with so many meiji products to choose from, and despite being a bit disapointed with the price(coz ppl have been saying it is damn cheap there and its a sales that couldnt be missed), im still glad i made the trip. coz meiji produces excellent and tasty tit bits!!
bah... im gonna be fat... FML
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
ST JAMES FREE ENTRY TO SAFRA MEMBERSS
http://www.safra.sg/page.aspx?pageid=565
Read on, the following new benefits are now made available to all SAFRA members! We are not only talking about free entry for you and your friends daily. There is also a host of other benefits lined up, specially for you. All these are taking effect on 1 October 2010.
Now, there is more reason to Party at St James Power Station with SAFRA!
•FREE entry for member and two guests on Friday, Saturday and public holiday eve, excluding Christmas and New Year’s eve
•Free entry for members and five guests from Sunday to Thursday
•20% off house pour, premium bottles, wine and champagne and additional 5% discount during happy hour
•20% off loose drinks, jugs, buckets and shuttles at Power house, Lobby & The New Paper Sports Bar
•10% off all extra premium and 3 litres bottles. Additional 10% during happy hours from 6pm to 9pm daily
•10% off bar food at St James Power Station. Discount is not applicable at St James Wine Bar & Bistro
•Wednesday members night at St James Power Station – happy hour till midnight, 50% off drinks, $120 for bottle of Hennessy/Johnnie Walker Black/Smirnoff Black (Wed promotion is subject to change)
Terms and Conditions:
•Promotion is applicable at 11 St James outlets.
•Free entry is not applicable on Christmas eve and New Year’s eve.
•Other terms and conditions apply.
thank you safra...
so WHO WANNA GO CLUB WITH ME???
Sunday, June 6, 2010
pokemybirthdayy
http://www.pokemybirthday.com/
Poke My Birthday on 21.December.1989
On your Way to Your Birthday on 21.December.1989:
You were born on Thursday on 21.December.1989 and you think this is your oldest day of your life history but you are sadly wrong. Let's surprise you:
14.February.1989, Tuesday, (Your birthday -310 days):
On 14.February.1989, Tuesday, your father has produced the semen that will be half of you soon.
He produced 1000 sperms every second of his life and you will be be lucky one out of 500 million sperm he sent on their way in the conceivement. You may find interesting to know that if he had drunk (or not drunk) coffee on this Tuesday morning, you might born completely as someone else (for instance in the opposite sex) as kafein changes the speed of male sperms.
1.March.1989, Wednesday (Your birthday -295 days):
Today your mother ad her last menstrual cycle and started building up the egg, that will be the other half of you.
After today, she will not have this cycle again for a very long time (thanks to you!). She spent Wednesday as moody, anxious, short-tempered and you should be glad, you were not around her that day!
16.March.1989, Thursday (Your birthday -280 days):
Your mother's egg is ready to build the other half of you and your father and your mother got together to make you.
But there is still no "you" around so don't get excited much. It can take several hours for your father's sperm to reach your mother's egg and now it is just on its way out.
17.March.1989, Friday (Your birthday -279 days):
Out of 500 million sperm on their way to your mother's egg, the sperm which built you has won the race by coming first and the sperm and the egg is became one to make your very first cell. Do you see how lucky your half (the sperm) be by winning coming up first among 500 million other rivals? Never tell you are not lucky anymore!
We can call Friday, 17.March.1989 as your "first day alive" because this is when you are a living entity, an embryo, congratulations! Although you are just a 1 cell creature today your unique DNA is also formed so your future destiny like your sex, height, physical apperance, intelligence, characteristic and vulnability to certain dissesases is already been determined.
31.March.1989, Friday (Your birthday -265 days):
If your mother is an intelligent women, she would have suspected that she is pregnant at 31.March.1989, Friday. She is not very sure yet but she is suspicious. We hope she was excited and joyed, not worried.
7.April.1989, Friday (Your birthday -258 days):
Today your mother is telling your father about her pregrancy and he is celebrating to be a daddy!
Day 7.April.1989, Friday is also important in that, your heart has pumped for the first time today. We don't know if it is a coincedence that your father learned about you in the very day, your heart first pumped!
22.June.1989, Thursday (Your birthday -182 days):
Your parents could have lawfully got an abortion until 22.June.1989, Thursday so this is also an important day of your life. Today they decided you should live!
We are glad they didn't otherwise, we'd lose one site visitor in pokemybirthday.com.
21.December.1989, Thursday(Your birthday):
You are born to a cruel world. Happy birthday little buddy! We hope you remember to enjoy your life which was a big journey from day minus 310 to today.
Your lucky days are Thursday (Conceivement date, Your parents decided to not to have an abortion, You were born) and Friday (Your first cell is built, Your mother suspects she is pregnant, Your heart beat for the first time).
You are exactly 20 years 24 weeks 4 days 5 hours 53 minutes 48 seconds old.
You will receive your next birthday gift in 28 weeks 1 day 18 hours 6 minutes 12 seconds later. (as of 6/6/2010 1900 GTM+8)
If your hair were never cut since 21.December.1989, it would be 2.981 m. today.
If your nails were never cut since 21.December.1989, they would be 7.398 cm. today.
An apple tree seeded on 21.December.1989, bore 1,816.882 kg. apple till today.
Its contribution to economy is $7,249.4 and it fed 3,048 people. We hope that in your life you, as a human being, achieved more than that poor apple tree.
Poke My Birthday on 21.December.1989
On your Way to Your Birthday on 21.December.1989:
You were born on Thursday on 21.December.1989 and you think this is your oldest day of your life history but you are sadly wrong. Let's surprise you:
14.February.1989, Tuesday, (Your birthday -310 days):
On 14.February.1989, Tuesday, your father has produced the semen that will be half of you soon.
He produced 1000 sperms every second of his life and you will be be lucky one out of 500 million sperm he sent on their way in the conceivement. You may find interesting to know that if he had drunk (or not drunk) coffee on this Tuesday morning, you might born completely as someone else (for instance in the opposite sex) as kafein changes the speed of male sperms.
1.March.1989, Wednesday (Your birthday -295 days):
Today your mother ad her last menstrual cycle and started building up the egg, that will be the other half of you.
After today, she will not have this cycle again for a very long time (thanks to you!). She spent Wednesday as moody, anxious, short-tempered and you should be glad, you were not around her that day!
16.March.1989, Thursday (Your birthday -280 days):
Your mother's egg is ready to build the other half of you and your father and your mother got together to make you.
But there is still no "you" around so don't get excited much. It can take several hours for your father's sperm to reach your mother's egg and now it is just on its way out.
17.March.1989, Friday (Your birthday -279 days):
Out of 500 million sperm on their way to your mother's egg, the sperm which built you has won the race by coming first and the sperm and the egg is became one to make your very first cell. Do you see how lucky your half (the sperm) be by winning coming up first among 500 million other rivals? Never tell you are not lucky anymore!
We can call Friday, 17.March.1989 as your "first day alive" because this is when you are a living entity, an embryo, congratulations! Although you are just a 1 cell creature today your unique DNA is also formed so your future destiny like your sex, height, physical apperance, intelligence, characteristic and vulnability to certain dissesases is already been determined.
31.March.1989, Friday (Your birthday -265 days):
If your mother is an intelligent women, she would have suspected that she is pregnant at 31.March.1989, Friday. She is not very sure yet but she is suspicious. We hope she was excited and joyed, not worried.
7.April.1989, Friday (Your birthday -258 days):
Today your mother is telling your father about her pregrancy and he is celebrating to be a daddy!
Day 7.April.1989, Friday is also important in that, your heart has pumped for the first time today. We don't know if it is a coincedence that your father learned about you in the very day, your heart first pumped!
22.June.1989, Thursday (Your birthday -182 days):
Your parents could have lawfully got an abortion until 22.June.1989, Thursday so this is also an important day of your life. Today they decided you should live!
We are glad they didn't otherwise, we'd lose one site visitor in pokemybirthday.com.
21.December.1989, Thursday(Your birthday):
You are born to a cruel world. Happy birthday little buddy! We hope you remember to enjoy your life which was a big journey from day minus 310 to today.
Your lucky days are Thursday (Conceivement date, Your parents decided to not to have an abortion, You were born) and Friday (Your first cell is built, Your mother suspects she is pregnant, Your heart beat for the first time).
You are exactly 20 years 24 weeks 4 days 5 hours 53 minutes 48 seconds old.
You will receive your next birthday gift in 28 weeks 1 day 18 hours 6 minutes 12 seconds later. (as of 6/6/2010 1900 GTM+8)
If your hair were never cut since 21.December.1989, it would be 2.981 m. today.
If your nails were never cut since 21.December.1989, they would be 7.398 cm. today.
An apple tree seeded on 21.December.1989, bore 1,816.882 kg. apple till today.
Its contribution to economy is $7,249.4 and it fed 3,048 people. We hope that in your life you, as a human being, achieved more than that poor apple tree.
Friday, April 9, 2010
如果－席慕容
四季可以安排得极为暗淡
如果太阳愿意
人生可以安排得极为寂寞
如果爱情愿意
我可以永不再出现
如果你愿意
除了对你的思念
亲人和朋友
我一无长物
然而
如果你愿意
我将立即使思念枯萎
断落
如果你愿意
我将
把每一个河流都切断
让荒芜干涸延伸到无穷远
今生今世
永不再将你想起
除了
除了在有些个
因落泪而湿润的夜里
如果
如果你愿意
from hai pai again...
well.. it touched me...
如果太阳愿意
人生可以安排得极为寂寞
如果爱情愿意
我可以永不再出现
如果你愿意
除了对你的思念
亲人和朋友
我一无长物
然而
如果你愿意
我将立即使思念枯萎
断落
如果你愿意
我将
把每一个河流都切断
让荒芜干涸延伸到无穷远
今生今世
永不再将你想起
除了
除了在有些个
因落泪而湿润的夜里
如果
如果你愿意
from hai pai again...
well.. it touched me...
Saturday, February 27, 2010
一颗开花的树, 席慕容
如何让你遇见我
在我最美丽的时刻 为这
我已在佛前 求了五百年
求佛让我们结一段尘缘
佛于是把我化作一棵树
长在你必经的路旁
阳光下盛重的开满花朵
朵朵都是我前世的企盼
当你走近 请你细听
那颤抖的叶是我等待的热情
而当你终于无视的走过
在你身后落了一地的
朋友啊 那不是花瓣
是我凋零的心
海派甜心
在我最美丽的时刻 为这
我已在佛前 求了五百年
求佛让我们结一段尘缘
佛于是把我化作一棵树
长在你必经的路旁
阳光下盛重的开满花朵
朵朵都是我前世的企盼
当你走近 请你细听
那颤抖的叶是我等待的热情
而当你终于无视的走过
在你身后落了一地的
朋友啊 那不是花瓣
是我凋零的心
海派甜心
Thursday, February 25, 2010
A lesson from Mr. Smiley
Being happy and being sad are big difference.
People would always tell you to be happy.
But how?
Let Mr Smiley teach you =]
Mr Smiley would tell you that, being happy and being sad is all about how do you see it.
for eg, if your eyes sees this way >> =[ <<< it is a sad face ...
however, without changing the "mouth of Mr Smiley", but how the "eyes" see it,
tada >>>> [= <<<< you get a happy face!!
so remember, being happy or sad is not about the situation. it all depend if you are able to look at the bright side, if you are able to see things differently.
You live life, happy also one day, sad also one day.
so why be saD?
Dedicated to everyone reading my blog, and at the same time, feeling sad...
Cause im damn happy as of 25/02/10 10.20pm, thursday, GTM +8 =DDDD
People would always tell you to be happy.
But how?
Let Mr Smiley teach you =]
Mr Smiley would tell you that, being happy and being sad is all about how do you see it.
for eg, if your eyes sees this way >> =[ <<< it is a sad face ...
however, without changing the "mouth of Mr Smiley", but how the "eyes" see it,
tada >>>> [= <<<< you get a happy face!!
so remember, being happy or sad is not about the situation. it all depend if you are able to look at the bright side, if you are able to see things differently.
You live life, happy also one day, sad also one day.
so why be saD?
Dedicated to everyone reading my blog, and at the same time, feeling sad...
Cause im damn happy as of 25/02/10 10.20pm, thursday, GTM +8 =DDDD
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Some super weird questions
Stumbled on a few weird questions and i guess since im free, i should try to answer them all=]
and although they are all so weird, they are kinda cool questions.
why are sky not purple?why are houses not made of marshmallow?what are really wrong doings?are parents always right?can we rebel?is it right to go for our rights?why is my name this way?how is human first formed?who is the first human?why are human brains so fantastic?why dont we have 36 hours a day?why is there a sun?why can vampires live with humans?why vampires dont exist?why do we need to sleep?
what is the thing in us that made us feel love?is it the heart?heart is just made up of muscular tissues,role is to pump blood all around the body.isn’t it?
why are sky not purple?
It is, at a certain time at evening when the sun is setting.=]]
why are houses not made of marshmallow?
coz mices and cockroaches would feast on ur house and you would have no place to stay =]
What are really wrong doing?
That has to depend on your own moral.nothing is really wrong as everything you do always follow with a reason, however sucky the reason is.
Are parents always right?
are parents human? if they are, they do make mistakes, but keep in mind, even if they made a mistake, it is still due to too much care fer you =]
can we rebel?
if u really dont wanna do something, do u think ANYONE can stop us?
if the answer is no, we are rebelling =]
Is it right to go for our own rights?
if you know what you are doing, den why issit wrong?
things that belongs to yourself, can only be decided by u and only u =DD
Why is Your name this way?
As a chinese, all chinese names(other than those u use in compos) comes with a meaning and a faith your parents want in you.
for my english name, im named after Benjamin Sheares.
for my chinese name 荣豪，it comes with a couplet.
荣得良机莫停步
豪迈江山快前进
my chinese name is given by my grandfather, wanting me to go all out to bring glory to the family(荣) and to be outstanding(豪)
how is human first formed?
according to the conventional way, its supposed to be formed by putting a sperm into a egg. but if your talking abt the first human, according to the bible, god made the first pair of human, Adam and Eve.
But if u dont believe in it, just treat it as first human came from the stones =]
who is the first human?
Stated in "how is human first formed"
why are human brains so fantastic?
because of the complexity of it.
it is made by a lot of neurons.
why dont we have 36hours a day?
then we shall only have 243.33333 a year =] the period of revolution for the earth around the sun is 365dayss..
but according to google and some webbie they provided,
"A popular theory is that the Sumerians counted in base twelve rather than in the base ten we use today. This is said to have been done using the fingers.
If you look at the fingers - not the thumb - of one hand you will see that (for most people) each contains three segments. Three segments on each of four fingers gives twelve. The thumb can then be used to point to a particular segment and indicate a number.
So, twelve segments on each hand, one hand for day and the other for night - and we have a possible origin of the 24 hour day."
so tada, we have 24 hours a day=]
for me, i find it too much time, (especially when ur in the ARMY)
why is there a sun?
because it is there to provide us with basic necessity like warmth, light and even nutrient. and the best part is, it gives us all these, FOR FREE!!
why can vampires live with humans?
Vampires only live with humans in Twilight saga -.-
why vampires dont exist?
coz it is fiction. just like i can come out with a rabitney monster and write and describe it so real it will be featured in movies and stuffs like tat..
why do we need to sleep?
to repair our overworked organs.
what is the thing in us that made us feel love? is it the heart?heart is just made up of muscular tissues,role is to pump blood all around the body.isn’t it?
its a chemical reaction in the body.
"For example, whenever you first meet someone and feel attracted, your brain creates phenyl ethylamine, known as the “love drug.” "
"Dopamine and norepinephren are two more chemicals that arise from just thinking loving thoughts about another. Those two help us to feel excited and interested enough to actually touch or kiss someone, and that sets off more chain reactions, beginning with serotonin, which produces feelings of relaxation. Now the door to trust is open. "
quote from http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/relationshipadv_tukr.htm
However, due to those chemical pumping, the heart would react in a different way, therefore beating faster and therefore made us feel that love is related to the heart instead of the chemical produced.
okie, these questions asked by a sec 4 girl would seemed retarded...
but somehow, i find them cool.. -.-
and although they are all so weird, they are kinda cool questions.
why are sky not purple?why are houses not made of marshmallow?what are really wrong doings?are parents always right?can we rebel?is it right to go for our rights?why is my name this way?how is human first formed?who is the first human?why are human brains so fantastic?why dont we have 36 hours a day?why is there a sun?why can vampires live with humans?why vampires dont exist?why do we need to sleep?
what is the thing in us that made us feel love?is it the heart?heart is just made up of muscular tissues,role is to pump blood all around the body.isn’t it?
why are sky not purple?
It is, at a certain time at evening when the sun is setting.=]]
why are houses not made of marshmallow?
coz mices and cockroaches would feast on ur house and you would have no place to stay =]
What are really wrong doing?
That has to depend on your own moral.nothing is really wrong as everything you do always follow with a reason, however sucky the reason is.
Are parents always right?
are parents human? if they are, they do make mistakes, but keep in mind, even if they made a mistake, it is still due to too much care fer you =]
can we rebel?
if u really dont wanna do something, do u think ANYONE can stop us?
if the answer is no, we are rebelling =]
Is it right to go for our own rights?
if you know what you are doing, den why issit wrong?
things that belongs to yourself, can only be decided by u and only u =DD
Why is Your name this way?
As a chinese, all chinese names(other than those u use in compos) comes with a meaning and a faith your parents want in you.
for my english name, im named after Benjamin Sheares.
for my chinese name 荣豪，it comes with a couplet.
荣得良机莫停步
豪迈江山快前进
my chinese name is given by my grandfather, wanting me to go all out to bring glory to the family(荣) and to be outstanding(豪)
how is human first formed?
according to the conventional way, its supposed to be formed by putting a sperm into a egg. but if your talking abt the first human, according to the bible, god made the first pair of human, Adam and Eve.
But if u dont believe in it, just treat it as first human came from the stones =]
who is the first human?
Stated in "how is human first formed"
why are human brains so fantastic?
because of the complexity of it.
it is made by a lot of neurons.
why dont we have 36hours a day?
then we shall only have 243.33333 a year =] the period of revolution for the earth around the sun is 365dayss..
but according to google and some webbie they provided,
"A popular theory is that the Sumerians counted in base twelve rather than in the base ten we use today. This is said to have been done using the fingers.
If you look at the fingers - not the thumb - of one hand you will see that (for most people) each contains three segments. Three segments on each of four fingers gives twelve. The thumb can then be used to point to a particular segment and indicate a number.
So, twelve segments on each hand, one hand for day and the other for night - and we have a possible origin of the 24 hour day."
so tada, we have 24 hours a day=]
for me, i find it too much time, (especially when ur in the ARMY)
why is there a sun?
because it is there to provide us with basic necessity like warmth, light and even nutrient. and the best part is, it gives us all these, FOR FREE!!
why can vampires live with humans?
Vampires only live with humans in Twilight saga -.-
why vampires dont exist?
coz it is fiction. just like i can come out with a rabitney monster and write and describe it so real it will be featured in movies and stuffs like tat..
why do we need to sleep?
to repair our overworked organs.
what is the thing in us that made us feel love? is it the heart?heart is just made up of muscular tissues,role is to pump blood all around the body.isn’t it?
its a chemical reaction in the body.
"For example, whenever you first meet someone and feel attracted, your brain creates phenyl ethylamine, known as the “love drug.” "
"Dopamine and norepinephren are two more chemicals that arise from just thinking loving thoughts about another. Those two help us to feel excited and interested enough to actually touch or kiss someone, and that sets off more chain reactions, beginning with serotonin, which produces feelings of relaxation. Now the door to trust is open. "
quote from http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/relationshipadv_tukr.htm
However, due to those chemical pumping, the heart would react in a different way, therefore beating faster and therefore made us feel that love is related to the heart instead of the chemical produced.
okie, these questions asked by a sec 4 girl would seemed retarded...
but somehow, i find them cool.. -.-
Monday, January 11, 2010
Tribute to Kitchen Tigress
It was big in the news!
http://kitchentigress.blogspot.com/
Shes a cool blogger who really went on to ask for a cake from OCBC.
Some people says she had too much time on hand and needs to burn some time buy irritating those poor busy staffs there.
Some people says she successfully exploit the weakness of a TV ad.
But if we take all TV ad literally, we would be in trouble.
coz RED BULL GIVES YOU WIINGSS.
or are we supposed to NOT sign that particular credit card so as to "save boney" from being eaten??
and i have been eating nutella bread for breakfast, but i still doze off in clasS/work?
either way,
kudos to kitchen tigress =]
links:
http://kitchentigress.blogspot.com/
http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/what_bugs_me/301384/woman_asks_bank_for_her_bday_cake_and_gets_a_miserable_one.html
http://kitchentigress.blogspot.com/
Shes a cool blogger who really went on to ask for a cake from OCBC.
Some people says she had too much time on hand and needs to burn some time buy irritating those poor busy staffs there.
Some people says she successfully exploit the weakness of a TV ad.
But if we take all TV ad literally, we would be in trouble.
coz RED BULL GIVES YOU WIINGSS.
or are we supposed to NOT sign that particular credit card so as to "save boney" from being eaten??
and i have been eating nutella bread for breakfast, but i still doze off in clasS/work?
either way,
kudos to kitchen tigress =]
links:
http://kitchentigress.blogspot.com/
http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/what_bugs_me/301384/woman_asks_bank_for_her_bday_cake_and_gets_a_miserable_one.html
Friday, January 8, 2010
Hare, Rabbit and Bunny: Whats the Diff?
Today is a funny article on animal, and it happen to be my fave animal, as well as the fave animal of one of my friend*
What is the difference between a rabbit, a hare and a bunny??
This is a Hare.
Hare gives birth on ground. (fyi, non pet rabbits gives birth in a burrow)
Hare are more independent, as they are lack of physical protection since young.
Hare are born with eyes open and fully furred, so they are ready to be on their own soon after birth.
Hare usually do NOT live in groups.
Hare is larger than rabbit, have longer ears and have black markings on the fur.
Hare is fast, (but im faster =x), the European Brown Hare can run up to a speed of 72km/h.
Hare has similar diet to a rabbit.
Hare is NOT domesticated, hence, u cant keep it as pet =[[
This is a Rabbit.
Most breed gives birth in a burrow.
Rabbit usually live in a group.
Rabbit are borned hairless and blind, so yes, they need protection until they are old enough.
Rabbit have powerful hindlegs.
Rabbits are vege eaterss(herbivors). SAME AS HARE!
Rabbit can be kept as pets ( and i daresay, they are cuter than a hare =x, but maybe i chose a sucky photo for the hare?? hmmmm)
This is a (Bugs) Bunny
Bunny can be either a rabbit or a hare.
Bunny is only a cute nickname to a rabbit or a hare.
Okie,
That's All,
Folks.
What is the difference between a rabbit, a hare and a bunny??
This is a Hare.
Hare gives birth on ground. (fyi, non pet rabbits gives birth in a burrow)
Hare are more independent, as they are lack of physical protection since young.
Hare are born with eyes open and fully furred, so they are ready to be on their own soon after birth.
Hare usually do NOT live in groups.
Hare is larger than rabbit, have longer ears and have black markings on the fur.
Hare is fast, (but im faster =x), the European Brown Hare can run up to a speed of 72km/h.
Hare has similar diet to a rabbit.
Hare is NOT domesticated, hence, u cant keep it as pet =[[
This is a Rabbit.
Most breed gives birth in a burrow.
Rabbit usually live in a group.
Rabbit are borned hairless and blind, so yes, they need protection until they are old enough.
Rabbit have powerful hindlegs.
Rabbits are vege eaterss(herbivors). SAME AS HARE!
Rabbit can be kept as pets ( and i daresay, they are cuter than a hare =x, but maybe i chose a sucky photo for the hare?? hmmmm)
This is a (Bugs) Bunny
Bunny can be either a rabbit or a hare.
Bunny is only a cute nickname to a rabbit or a hare.
Okie,
That's All,
Folks.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Climate Change
Okie, since the copenhagen talk is on the way. i shall blog a bit about how we can help to improve the climate changes with our strength.
CUT DOWN ON ELECTRICITY USAGE BY
-off appliances that you do not use.
-off all switches that is on standby.
-use energy saving lightbulbs.
-WATCH LESS TV AND USE LESS COMPUTER
RECYCLE
-plastic water bottles
-used papers
-plastic bags
-soft drinks cans
-newspaper
-old cardboxes
USE LESS OF
-styrofoam products
-plastic bags ( use recycle bags)
-paper (dont anyhow print things )
-plastic boxes
DO
-plant more trees
-litter less
-less dumping in the sea
-take more public transport when travelling
though its seemed mediocre to do these ourselves, if a lot of people do these together, it is gonna do the earth good. it is just like the case of if everyone in china gives me 10cents, i will become a millionair.
the talks at copenhagen is about cutting down carbon emmision. but this is not enough. the government should also do something more to cut down on pollution. they should make sure that government body themselves set an example by using energy saving bulbs themselves first, cut down on air conditioning in all government bodies, and require all food courts inside their complexs to not use styrofoam products.
My army camp for example, even if we are dining inside the canteen, they provide us with styrofoam cups, plates, and disposable utensils. i find that this is totally not environmental friendly.
Another issue is with public transport.
if the government wants us to cut down our personal carbon footprints, please do make public transport cheaper instead of keep increasing the price of it. if that is the case, people would feel more encouraged to take public transport than personal transport.
IF the government dont do wat they preach, how do the people be convinced that there is an urgency to save mother earth?
All people think of is profits, money and success. but if the world continue to fail, even with state of art technology, even with all the money in the world, we could not reverse the harm that is done.
So i plead with the world.
Do however little u could to save the earth. even if it seemed so little to be noticable, you will still help.
Saturday, December 5, 2009
She's Your Friend, NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND
okie, i came across this super cool article that made me got nothing to say.
maybe i shouldnt make 2 friends end up together.
so here it goes.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_300/365_why-shes-your-friend-not-your-girlfriend.html
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So, you're getting to that stage in your life when all of your guy friends gradually start to partner up, pop the question and enter a life of ball-and-chain bliss. As much as you may make fun of them, it's hard to ignore the sting that often comes from being the only one in your group of friends who's alone. This might lead you to think that your longtime female friend represents an intriguing solution to your loneliness -- but considering her as possible girlfriend/wife material is all sorts of wrong. You need to discover why this could be the worst idea you’ve ever had. Understand, we’re referring to the friend you see and talk to often, not the chick from college you run into after years of not speaking; she is definitely an option.
You know each other too well
You know that exciting first stage of dating when every fact a girl shares about herself seems like a clue to the overall mystery that is her -- and you're like a modern-day Indiana Jones? This stage doesn't last forever, nor is it the most crucial element in a relationship, but that doesn't mean it's not important in its own right. In an age where all our personal information is splattered all over Facebook, Twitter and whatever other social network is in vogue, mystery is highly underrated. In fact, it's been proven that a lack of mystery creates problems for men in the beginning of relationships, much more than for women. Do you think there's going to be much mystery to the chick who vomited all over your shoes one drunken night or told you all about her first pregnancy scare? Probably not.
There’s no honeymoon phase
When you first start dating someone, you’re either playing games or trying to impress her. That intoxicating feeling that causes girls to dress up in their best outfits and causes you to pretend to like the same movies she does is a quintessential first step of most relationships. Somewhere in the midst of those little white lies, you learn an appreciation and tolerance for things that you would never enjoy in the company of a friend. You’re skipping right past this phase if you start dating a long-time friend by heading straight into the comfort zone -- a land of sweatpant Fridays and snippy comments about each other’s interests. Do not pass “Go” and do not collect $200.
Awkward sex
If you’ve never thought about your friend in "that way" before, chances are the base physical attraction simply isn't there. And if it was never there before, you’ll find yourself forcing it to fit your newfound goal of making this girl your serious girlfriend -- which is bound to lead to some horribly awkward physical encounters. Your head might want to turn your friendship into something more -- but it doesn’t mean that your penis is going to agree with you.
The potential for settling
The question of “am I settling?” comes into play in almost every serious relationship at one point or another. Most times you have to ignore it and realize it’s just a product of the “grass is always greener on the other side” human condition. But when you’re taking a longstanding friendship and hurtling it full-steam ahead into a relationship, the question of whether you just settled with the nearest and easiest possible option for a girlfriend is entirely valid and a tough doubt to deal with.
The end of your friendship
Whether your attempt at turning your platonic gal pal into a serious girlfriend lasts for a week or a year, the friendship you once had with her is over. Period. There’s no going back. You might lay down the ground rules before you enter into this experiment and swear that you’ll remain friends no matter what happens, but that’s just one of those comforting lies we tell ourselves -- like Santa Claus and soul mates. A healthy, platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex is a rare thing -- and it will rapidly become extinct in your life if you choose to cross that line.
she's your friend, keep it that way
If you've managed to keep a healthy relationship with a female friend for a good amount of time, there's a reason why you aren't a couple. She might be fun and great to talk to, but chances are she's only becoming an option now because of the current state of your relationship affairs. Forcing a friendship into something more is usually doomed to fail and worse, destined to ruin the previous bond you had. Females outnumber males in the world -- focus your sights on any one of the thousands you haven't met yet, and away from the one chick who knows you bawled like a baby every time your beloved sports team didn’t win the championship. That one’s for the vault, buddy.
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i claim no credit to these advices and comments. but i find it cool to let people know =]]
maybe i shouldnt make 2 friends end up together.
so here it goes.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_300/365_why-shes-your-friend-not-your-girlfriend.html
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So, you're getting to that stage in your life when all of your guy friends gradually start to partner up, pop the question and enter a life of ball-and-chain bliss. As much as you may make fun of them, it's hard to ignore the sting that often comes from being the only one in your group of friends who's alone. This might lead you to think that your longtime female friend represents an intriguing solution to your loneliness -- but considering her as possible girlfriend/wife material is all sorts of wrong. You need to discover why this could be the worst idea you’ve ever had. Understand, we’re referring to the friend you see and talk to often, not the chick from college you run into after years of not speaking; she is definitely an option.
You know each other too well
You know that exciting first stage of dating when every fact a girl shares about herself seems like a clue to the overall mystery that is her -- and you're like a modern-day Indiana Jones? This stage doesn't last forever, nor is it the most crucial element in a relationship, but that doesn't mean it's not important in its own right. In an age where all our personal information is splattered all over Facebook, Twitter and whatever other social network is in vogue, mystery is highly underrated. In fact, it's been proven that a lack of mystery creates problems for men in the beginning of relationships, much more than for women. Do you think there's going to be much mystery to the chick who vomited all over your shoes one drunken night or told you all about her first pregnancy scare? Probably not.
There’s no honeymoon phase
When you first start dating someone, you’re either playing games or trying to impress her. That intoxicating feeling that causes girls to dress up in their best outfits and causes you to pretend to like the same movies she does is a quintessential first step of most relationships. Somewhere in the midst of those little white lies, you learn an appreciation and tolerance for things that you would never enjoy in the company of a friend. You’re skipping right past this phase if you start dating a long-time friend by heading straight into the comfort zone -- a land of sweatpant Fridays and snippy comments about each other’s interests. Do not pass “Go” and do not collect $200.
Awkward sex
If you’ve never thought about your friend in "that way" before, chances are the base physical attraction simply isn't there. And if it was never there before, you’ll find yourself forcing it to fit your newfound goal of making this girl your serious girlfriend -- which is bound to lead to some horribly awkward physical encounters. Your head might want to turn your friendship into something more -- but it doesn’t mean that your penis is going to agree with you.
The potential for settling
The question of “am I settling?” comes into play in almost every serious relationship at one point or another. Most times you have to ignore it and realize it’s just a product of the “grass is always greener on the other side” human condition. But when you’re taking a longstanding friendship and hurtling it full-steam ahead into a relationship, the question of whether you just settled with the nearest and easiest possible option for a girlfriend is entirely valid and a tough doubt to deal with.
The end of your friendship
Whether your attempt at turning your platonic gal pal into a serious girlfriend lasts for a week or a year, the friendship you once had with her is over. Period. There’s no going back. You might lay down the ground rules before you enter into this experiment and swear that you’ll remain friends no matter what happens, but that’s just one of those comforting lies we tell ourselves -- like Santa Claus and soul mates. A healthy, platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex is a rare thing -- and it will rapidly become extinct in your life if you choose to cross that line.
she's your friend, keep it that way
If you've managed to keep a healthy relationship with a female friend for a good amount of time, there's a reason why you aren't a couple. She might be fun and great to talk to, but chances are she's only becoming an option now because of the current state of your relationship affairs. Forcing a friendship into something more is usually doomed to fail and worse, destined to ruin the previous bond you had. Females outnumber males in the world -- focus your sights on any one of the thousands you haven't met yet, and away from the one chick who knows you bawled like a baby every time your beloved sports team didn’t win the championship. That one’s for the vault, buddy.
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i claim no credit to these advices and comments. but i find it cool to let people know =]]
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Shit quizzies
Color Checking Result!
b3n
21/12/1989
You are Green Lion, who reminds of a warm sunshine in the winter. Your personality is kind, modest and courteous. Although sensitiveness stands out in conversation, and in the way you talk, your crisp movements give good impression to people.You look as though you are very sociable, but you also have inflexible and obstinate side.You don't express your feelings and thoughts. You listen to others passively, but it is unlikely that you would use the ideas that came up.You stick to your ideas and won't change so easily. If you find weak points in other person's theory, you will severely attack that.You have a precise and alert personality. You will not go after things that are in fashion, and this can also be said about towards work.You have high self-esteem. You can calmly manage carring out your job, and is a person of artisan spirit. You dislike being told what to do. You will be successful working in venture company, where you can exercise some freedom.You are not good at behind the scene tactics. Your leadership may be easily taken by those who are much better at political maneuvering. You should become more confident by making your mind enriched.
Copyright NORACOM Co., Ltd./kubokikaku All rights reserved.
http://world.doubutsu-uranai.com/result.php
b3n
21/12/1989
You are Green Lion, who reminds of a warm sunshine in the winter. Your personality is kind, modest and courteous. Although sensitiveness stands out in conversation, and in the way you talk, your crisp movements give good impression to people.You look as though you are very sociable, but you also have inflexible and obstinate side.You don't express your feelings and thoughts. You listen to others passively, but it is unlikely that you would use the ideas that came up.You stick to your ideas and won't change so easily. If you find weak points in other person's theory, you will severely attack that.You have a precise and alert personality. You will not go after things that are in fashion, and this can also be said about towards work.You have high self-esteem. You can calmly manage carring out your job, and is a person of artisan spirit. You dislike being told what to do. You will be successful working in venture company, where you can exercise some freedom.You are not good at behind the scene tactics. Your leadership may be easily taken by those who are much better at political maneuvering. You should become more confident by making your mind enriched.
Copyright NORACOM Co., Ltd./kubokikaku All rights reserved.
http://world.doubutsu-uranai.com/result.php
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
爱一人
爱一人
如果你不爱一个人,
请放手.
好让别人有机会爱她.
如果你爱的人放弃了你,
请放开自己,
好让自己有机会爱别人.
有的东西你再喜欢也不会属于你的,
有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃的.
人生中有许多种 .
但别让自己为一种伤害.
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,
爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.
如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选择谎言;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择沉默;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择离开.
如果失去是苦，
你怕不怕付出 ,
如果迷乱是苦，
你会不会选择结束,
如果追求是苦，
你会不会选择执迷不悟 ,
如果分离是苦，
你要向谁倾诉,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!
okie i came thru this thingy in some blog.
dunno if its original from the blogger or got it somewhere else.
nevertheless, i find it a bit too emo..
lets see wat i can do to make it sound happieR?
爱一人
如果你不爱一个人，
放手吧，
好让她找到幸福快乐。
如果你爱的人放弃了你，
接受自由吧，
好让自己重看世界。
有的东西你再努力也征服不了,
有的东西你再留恋也只能当作回忆.
人生中有许多喜怒哀乐 .
让欢喜帮助你成长.
让怒火帮助你长智，
让哀悼使你懂得珍惜，
让快乐帮你增加信心。
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,
爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.
如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选真诚来溺补对你的伤害;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择一辈子不对你撒谎;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择用温暖包扎这伤口.
如果失去是苦，
得来才会更珍惜。
如果迷乱是苦，
解迷才更有意义。
如果追求是苦，
只要是为了你,
我也能苦中作乐。
如果分离是苦，
我会庆幸我们有一段美好回忆,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!
So hows my try?
I think not bad,
But changed its original meaning by a bit
bah
dun care
如果你不爱一个人,
请放手.
好让别人有机会爱她.
如果你爱的人放弃了你,
请放开自己,
好让自己有机会爱别人.
有的东西你再喜欢也不会属于你的,
有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃的.
人生中有许多种 .
但别让自己为一种伤害.
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,
爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.
如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选择谎言;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择沉默;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择离开.
如果失去是苦，
你怕不怕付出 ,
如果迷乱是苦，
你会不会选择结束,
如果追求是苦，
你会不会选择执迷不悟 ,
如果分离是苦，
你要向谁倾诉,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!
okie i came thru this thingy in some blog.
dunno if its original from the blogger or got it somewhere else.
nevertheless, i find it a bit too emo..
lets see wat i can do to make it sound happieR?
爱一人
如果你不爱一个人，
放手吧，
好让她找到幸福快乐。
如果你爱的人放弃了你，
接受自由吧，
好让自己重看世界。
有的东西你再努力也征服不了,
有的东西你再留恋也只能当作回忆.
人生中有许多喜怒哀乐 .
让欢喜帮助你成长.
让怒火帮助你长智，
让哀悼使你懂得珍惜，
让快乐帮你增加信心。
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,
爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.
如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选真诚来溺补对你的伤害;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择一辈子不对你撒谎;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择用温暖包扎这伤口.
如果失去是苦，
得来才会更珍惜。
如果迷乱是苦，
解迷才更有意义。
如果追求是苦，
只要是为了你,
我也能苦中作乐。
如果分离是苦，
我会庆幸我们有一段美好回忆,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!
So hows my try?
I think not bad,
But changed its original meaning by a bit
bah
dun care
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Dating 101
okie, i found this article that sl thinks its very useful to me. since i seemed like im getting troubled over another potential rejection, i shall therefore share this damn article.
yahoo:
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/86944/dating-101-how-to-handle-rejection;_ylc=X3oDMTNwZzRqdmpqBF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEX3MDMjAyMzcwODkwNwRrA0RhdGluZyAxMDE6IEhvdyB0byBIYW5kbGUgUmVqZWN0aW9uBHNlYwNmcF90b2RheQRzbGsDZGF0aW5nLTEwMS1ob3ctdG8taGFuZGxlLXJlamVjdGlvbgR6egNhYmM-m
So there you are at the deli getting a ham sandwich, when that person you're attracted to comes and stands next to you at the counter. You've seen them over and over again, and you finally have the guts to turn and smile at them... and they do nothing in return. They almost look right through you like you don't exist.
So you grab your ham sandwich and run out of there as quickly as you can, saying to yourself, "I will never do that again. This doesn't work." Is this the best way to deal with rejection? How do you personally deal with rejection? More importantly, are you someone who believes that if you become "good" at dating you will no longer get rejected?
The dating truth is that being able to deal with rejection is the key to being successful at going out and meeting singles. It's also not the ultra-significant event so many make it out to be. So here are five essential tips on how to handle rejection, which you need to embrace if you are going to have a full and successful dating life:
1. Change Your Dating Expectations. One of the first and most important things to understand is that no matter what you do, not everybody is going to respond positively to you. Not everyone you smile at will smile back at you. Not everyone you say hello to is going to say hello back to you.Stop expecting a positive response 100% of the time. Just because somebody did not smile back at you does not mean that you're not an attractive person or that you made a mistake by smiling. The only thing it means is that it did not work with that one person.
2. Life Is All About Rejection. Everything in life has rejection involved in it. If you're a salesperson who makes 10 sales calls, you may only get one or two people to say yes. A baseball player whose batting average is around 300 will likely end up in the Hall of Fame. A quarterback who can complete 55 percent of his passes is doing pretty well. Everything in life is about percentages. You don't quit simply because you experienced some rejection. Imagine if you stopped looking for work when your very first interview didn't result in a job offer. That would, of course, be ridiculous. Remember that you also need to keep going in your dating life when you're rejected, because you want to keep increasing your odds of success.
3. Focus on Increasing Your Dating Odds. When you feel like you are getting more than your fair share of rejections, instead of focusing on those rejections, focus on increasing your odds of success. The fact is that by playing the percentages as I mentioned above, you will be successful.
The reason is that every time you take action -- every time you smile, say hello, or walk over and initiate a conversation -- you get better at it. If you're going to go out there and only talk to one person a day, then your chances of success are not going to be great. Increase your odds every single day and in everything you're doing.
4. Keep Things in Perspective. I hear some version of this from clients all the time: "What if I approach somebody, get rejected, and someone sees me? I'll never be able to go in that store again!" Get a little perspective here. Let me tell you something -- you're not front page news! When you're rejected, you need to just get over it. No one is talking about you. People are concerned about themselves and what is going on in their own lives, just as you are focused on what's going on in yours. So the fact that you get rejected in front of other people at the market, at the gym, or anywhere else is not a big deal to anyone but you.
5. Don't Overreact When Dating. The other thing I commonly hear from clients who have been rejected is some version of this: "I'm never going to talk to that person ever again now that I was rejected by them." This is not only a total overreaction, it is also absolutely the wrong thing to do. So you tried to talk to (or smile or look at) someone, and they didn't respond. As I mentioned above, there are a million possible reasons why that person did not respond to you. It doesn't necessarily mean that person wouldn't want to talk to you another time. If I smile at a woman and she doesn't respond, I don't play hide-and-go-seek the next time I see her. I am equally friendly to her the next time I see her, because you never know what will happen that second time. It's a different day. Put the last time behind you.
These are some ways to help you get over rejection. Realize that in order to get good at interacting with potential mates, you are going to get rejected. In fact, you want to get rejected every single day, because if you're not, it means you're not trying.
So ask yourself this: Did you get rejected today, and how can you go out tomorrow and make it an even better day than today? Learn to not only handle but to embrace rejection, and you will meet great new people and have an amazing social life.
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So there you are at the deli getting a ham sandwich, when that person you're attracted to comes and stands next to you at the counter. You've seen them over and over again, and you finally have the guts to turn and smile at them... and they do nothing in return. They almost look right through you like you don't exist.
So you grab your ham sandwich and run out of there as quickly as you can, saying to yourself, "I will never do that again. This doesn't work." Is this the best way to deal with rejection? How do you personally deal with rejection? More importantly, are you someone who believes that if you become "good" at dating you will no longer get rejected?
The dating truth is that being able to deal with rejection is the key to being successful at going out and meeting singles. It's also not the ultra-significant event so many make it out to be. So here are five essential tips on how to handle rejection, which you need to embrace if you are going to have a full and successful dating life:
1. Change Your Dating Expectations. One of the first and most important things to understand is that no matter what you do, not everybody is going to respond positively to you. Not everyone you smile at will smile back at you. Not everyone you say hello to is going to say hello back to you.Stop expecting a positive response 100% of the time. Just because somebody did not smile back at you does not mean that you're not an attractive person or that you made a mistake by smiling. The only thing it means is that it did not work with that one person.
2. Life Is All About Rejection. Everything in life has rejection involved in it. If you're a salesperson who makes 10 sales calls, you may only get one or two people to say yes. A baseball player whose batting average is around 300 will likely end up in the Hall of Fame. A quarterback who can complete 55 percent of his passes is doing pretty well. Everything in life is about percentages. You don't quit simply because you experienced some rejection. Imagine if you stopped looking for work when your very first interview didn't result in a job offer. That would, of course, be ridiculous. Remember that you also need to keep going in your dating life when you're rejected, because you want to keep increasing your odds of success.
3. Focus on Increasing Your Dating Odds. When you feel like you are getting more than your fair share of rejections, instead of focusing on those rejections, focus on increasing your odds of success. The fact is that by playing the percentages as I mentioned above, you will be successful.
The reason is that every time you take action -- every time you smile, say hello, or walk over and initiate a conversation -- you get better at it. If you're going to go out there and only talk to one person a day, then your chances of success are not going to be great. Increase your odds every single day and in everything you're doing.
4. Keep Things in Perspective. I hear some version of this from clients all the time: "What if I approach somebody, get rejected, and someone sees me? I'll never be able to go in that store again!" Get a little perspective here. Let me tell you something -- you're not front page news! When you're rejected, you need to just get over it. No one is talking about you. People are concerned about themselves and what is going on in their own lives, just as you are focused on what's going on in yours. So the fact that you get rejected in front of other people at the market, at the gym, or anywhere else is not a big deal to anyone but you.
5. Don't Overreact When Dating. The other thing I commonly hear from clients who have been rejected is some version of this: "I'm never going to talk to that person ever again now that I was rejected by them." This is not only a total overreaction, it is also absolutely the wrong thing to do. So you tried to talk to (or smile or look at) someone, and they didn't respond. As I mentioned above, there are a million possible reasons why that person did not respond to you. It doesn't necessarily mean that person wouldn't want to talk to you another time. If I smile at a woman and she doesn't respond, I don't play hide-and-go-seek the next time I see her. I am equally friendly to her the next time I see her, because you never know what will happen that second time. It's a different day. Put the last time behind you.
These are some ways to help you get over rejection. Realize that in order to get good at interacting with potential mates, you are going to get rejected. In fact, you want to get rejected every single day, because if you're not, it means you're not trying.
So ask yourself this: Did you get rejected today, and how can you go out tomorrow and make it an even better day than today? Learn to not only handle but to embrace rejection, and you will meet great new people and have an amazing social life.
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