Thursday, June 28, 2012

Help?

You see, you wanted to help someone you think who is in trouble. You want to save someone who is in distress. You want to do it, because you can.

But then again,
here comes the sad part.
Are the other party willing to accept your help?
Are they willing to be saved?

I was always trapped in the thinking of lending a helping hand, and to guide those in trouble back to the right path. But then again, what is the right path? How do you define the right path? How naive am i? why am i protecting people who dont want to be protected? isnt that giving them more trouble than alleviating it, which was the original purpose? why do i care so much when doing such thing would mean that it is right, but makes that person hate you?

I always thought smoking and drinking is bad, and advise people to not take on that path. But seriously? What the society perceived as bad doesnt mean it is bad. Smoking makes people more sociable and outgoing, while having booze does help relieve stress, which is why my drinking habits got worst after university matriculation.
An typical example was about this particular friend, i shall name him phil. he used to be like me, wearing polo tee to school, seldom skip lessons, and do not smoke nor drink. however, as time goes by, he slowly changed his fashion sense, which was a good thing. but the bad also followed. clubbing, drinking and eventually smoke. i told him off. urged him to quit. but he didnt heed my advice. for the benefits he sees is that he is getting the ladies attention, and he is enjoying the current new friends company, living a life of party and fun. we drifted, as we have major difference in lifestyle now. he turned out to be okay. what i perceived of the society of thinking smokers are bad people are grossly wrong.

I was once told off by my mum, for telling my younger cousin to sit gracefully instead of sitting like a gangster. She told me"why make them hate you when their own parents are okay with their behaviour?"
At that time, i yelled back and talked about what is right, being so self righteous.

But now, i get it. Some people just dont need that help, and they can still be well. Forcing your so called righteous idea on other doesnt mean you are righteous. It is like propaganda, you just want more people to agree with you, or follow strictly to the society norms.

I was watching Fate Zero, and the showed talked about a hero. There were a total of 500passengers on 2 boats, one with 200 passengers, while the other with 300. both boats are leaking, and you are the only shipwright who can repair the boat. Which one would you choose?
The obvious answer is the one with 300 person.
but before u can help out the boat with 300 person, u have to kill all people of the other boat as they have turned aggressive towards you as you gave up on them.
yes, we can argue that its for the good of the majority.
now, the boat with 300 people split again.
100 in one, 200 in another.
same situation, you have to kill everyone in the boat that you didnt choose.
that would mean 100 more. 
so in total, didnt we kill 300 people, and only save 200? 
so why bother? 


when you do not do them a favour, you are mostly a threat to others. 
even if you are willing to help and save people, some would not accept them.  for right or wrong is not judged by what the mainstream thinks, but to be determined by what you truly believe in.


Welcome to Reality
though a little late,
but yea.